This morning my status on my blackberry read ‘anyone willing to house me rent free?’ When I think about how much I pay in rent, I weep. I was thinking about who I could harass to lend me their spare room when I overheard a conversation between two of my colleagues. One of them recently bought a house and the other lives with his parents and siblings. Both men are in their thirties and Homeowner was taking a pop at people who earn a wage and still live with their parents. Apparently, said people are irresponsible and need to learn about responsibility. He was advising Live-at-Home to move out of his parents’ house and I found myself doing two things which are out of character for me. I butted into a conversation that didn’t concern me AND then got into a heated debate with Mr Homeowner. Talk about swallowing Panadol for another man’s headache!
“I know it’s none of my business but Live-at-Home, do yourself a favour and ignore Mr Homeowner! It’s alright for him because he can afford the deposit he needs but please, until you can too, don’t even thing about moving out to pay rent!”
“Excuse me Waila, why are you interrupting this conversation?!”
Na you sabi.
“I agree it’s not my business but where do you get off calling people that live at home irresponsible?! I suggest you Google the definition of irresponsible. You’ll find it doesn’t have anything to do with living at home after a certain age! ”
“I think they are irresponsible, that’s my opinion. You don’t have to agree with me!”
“That’s the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard. How can you tell him to move out and pay rent when he can be living rent free and saving up to buy his own place? Where’s the sense in that? Who is he trying to impress, you?!”
I was ready for war! I tried to tell myself to mind my own business but I couldn’t stop myself from laying into Homeowner. I went on for a good 15minutes about the long term benefits of putting up with family drama and at the end of it, Live-at-Home looked fully persuaded. Mission accomplished.
Paying rent is painful. If I saved up the amount of money I pay in rent for an entire year, I’d be £8,000 richer for it! Who in their right mind won’t want to do that?! I know that living with family has its challenges and you’ll have to put up with a lot of crap but I think if you can stick it out till you save up enough money to buy your own place, it’s worth it. I know a number of people who have managed to do just that and I can’t tell you how jealous I am of them. Five years ago I had an offer from my cousin Dee to live with her and her family. I said no even before she finished asking! I was independence hungry and much as I love my cousin, I wanted my own space. I can categorically state that that’s one of the worst decisions I’ve ever made in my life. If I’d taken her up on it, I’d probably own my own home now.
Who makes the rules about what one can and can’t do?! Why should I let someone else tell me at what age I ought to leave home?! I should go out and pay someone else’s mortgage while you pay yours abi? You try well well. Ose gan! If you want to move out of home at 18, knock yourself out. Just don’t go about making people who choose not to, feel like they’ve flunked one of life’s greatest tests.
Rant over. This blogging thing is therapeutic gan! ☺
So what do you guys think? Does it make sense to move out of home and pay rent when you could live at home and save up to buy your own house? Feel free to disagree with me. I promise not to chew your head off…I’ve still got Homeowner’s head in my mouth. *wink*