My Problem With Aso Ebi

My sister from another mother, Tomato, got married the day after the royal wedding (whoop whoop) and I had an AMAZING time at the wedding. I couldn’t stop smiling the whole day and for someone who isn’t a fan of weddings, that’s a big deal. I danced so much Jillian Michaels my dvd personal trainer will be proud. In the 5 hours I spent on the dance floor, I did things with my thighs and arms that she’s been (unsuccessfully) trying to get me to do for weeks. Congratulations to my Tomato and her Tomato. God bless you plenty!

Fun and beautiful though the wedding was, I was once again reminded of the benefits of eloping or sneaking off to your local registrar to do the deed. The expense, the stress, the expense, the stress, the expense…I’m eloping! The thought of spending a significant amount of money on a wedding when I’m renting a flat, paying a mortgage or have little money in the bank accelerates my heart beat. I’d much rather my husband to be and I were given the money to start our life together. Plus I don’t do stress at all. Both my objections could easily be eroded by copious amounts of money though so unless I marry an insanely rich man or hit the jackpot before my wedding, my position stands.

Now to the crux of the matter, aso ebi.

I recently bought a sewing machine as I’ve decided to start making my own clothes. I was going through my closet trying to find fabric to practice with and you will not believe how much wedding aso ebi I found. I immediately stopped feeling bad for all the times I’ve said “no thank you” to friends trying to sell me aso ebi for their weddings. In the last two year, I’ve adopted a zero tolerance policy to the tradition. I love my friends and want to support them on their big day but surely, there are other ways to show my love and support?! Two things led to the abolishment of aso ebi purchasing.

The first is that I almost never have my clothes made. The stress of finding a tailor in London is more than I’m prepared to endure and when you do find a tailor they charge you first class rates for an economy class service. A friend of mine got a dress made for a wedding with a tailor who charged her £60 for the service. You should have seen the dress…ill fitting, poorly finished, tacky trimmings…it was horrid. I wouldn’t have accepted it if it was offered to me free of charge. I have no problem paying that kind of money and more for a dress but the dress has to be worth every penny.

The second reason is that many brides-to-be take leave of their reasoning when it comes to all things wedding. How else will you explain someone selling her wedding aso ebi for £50?! Last year I got an email from a friend who was getting married in Nigeria. Her aso ebi was selling for N20,000…that’s £80. While I was in Nigeria over christmas someone had aso ebi delivered to my mum for her daughter’s wedding. When I opened the note that accompanied the package, I almost died. N100,000! I chased the driver who delivered the aso and told him to return it to his madam and tell her my mother wasn’t home. Madness, utter madness.

To all my yet to be married friends, now that I’m learning how to sew, I may well start buying aso ebi again but if you attempt to tax me for the privilege of being your friend, I will wear jeans to your wedding.

xXx

Waila

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19 comments

  1. learning to sew…interesting….first the guitar…now the sewing machine….why are you chasing me…lol

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  2. “While I was in Nigeria over christmas someone had aso ebi delivered to MY MUM for her daughter’s wedding. When I opened the note that accompanied the package, I almost died. N100,000! I chased the driver who delivered the aso and told him to return it to his madam and tell her my mother wasn’t home. MADNESS, UTTER MADNESS”

    LOL GBAO

    I FUCKING LOVE YOU WAILA CANN!!!

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  3. lol..

    the cost of the Aso ebi is so annoying. ankara that is like 15quid in market you ask people to pay £40 quid. Haba!

    dont worry waila, if i am doing any function, i will just tax you 25quid to come and rejoice with me. that way you can come in your jeans and use the 60quid u saved by not sewing aso ebi to buy me gifts!

    love ya

    keep it coming.

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  4. I think my issue with it all is that you often end up wearing the garment just once cos every bride to be has a unique aso ebo thus you cant wear your aso ebi from Sister A’s weddding to Sis B’s as Sis B’s aso ebi will probably be much different from Sis A’s ….so you pay (a) £25-30 for the aso ebi (b)£50 to sew it (c) about £50 to get your hair done for the wedding (d) if you dont have shoes that match the aso ebi maybe another £35 for shoes (e) oh then theres the bag to coordinate with the shoes&aso ebi so another £15

    Grand Total – £180!!!!!

    And the SADDEEEEEEST part is that one attends the wedding and is unable to sow a significant financial seed into the life of the newly wed couple…..

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  5. So my theory is that other than my besties, i’ll only collect aso ebi if it is cheaper than buying a dress.

    $150 for dress,
    $50 aso ebi+N3,500 sewing = $74
    Aso ebi is a winner

    otherwise i’ll buy my dress and rock it happily or better yet i’ll wear one of the aso ebi’s from 2 years back if i must wear trads 🙂

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  6. Im sorry, i havent even finished reading this but this line just had me choking ” recently bought a sewing machine as I’ve decided to start making my own clothes.” Hahahahahahahahah

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  7. Hahahahahahaha oh my days MEE you don gimme jokes today. “When I opened the note that accompanied the package, I almost died. N100,000! I chased the driver who delivered the aso” lol

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  8. Totally agree with you MEE, after going through it for many years when it came to my turn, I tried to fight my case and refused to have aso-ebi for my wedding. My mama wasn’t having none of it so after lots of arguments I finally settled for the aso-ebi but t’was only £10 and the material chosen by the very people that wanted to wear them 🙂

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  9. That sending of the aso to Nig is part of my problem with the whole thing. It’s more stress than I’m willing to endure. Maybe I’m just too lazy for my own good. Lol

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  10. If my family members try and give me a headache, I will elope o. I hope they are reading this so they won’t say they didn’t know. 🙂

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  11. Haba waila aso ebi shouldn’t be that big a deal if the price is within reason…the biggest challenge i’d say is being based out in london where the cost of tailors don’t make economic sense when you consider the cost of the aso. I reckon in nige you have more choices and it shouldn’t cost an arm and a leg!

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  12. wow! $100 for aso ebi? *smhg*
    Most I’ve bought sha is about ngn4000 ($26)>>>> now I love my friends :*
    Tailor charges about ngn1000/1500 (benefit of living in a suburb):D
    yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyy!! I won’t stop now that I know it’s relatively cheap :p

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